Behaalosecha 5786

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Key Takeaways

• Understanding ‘Not in Need’: Does the quote ‘Only when one is not in need of something, is he able to receive it’ mean surrendering all needs, suppressing them, or achieving a state of abundance? Humans are designed as vessels with inherent needs, especially interdependence with others and Hashem, rather than complete independence.
• Beliefs and Energy Around Needs: The core message is that the ability to receive is not about the absence of needs, but about one’s energy and beliefs surrounding those needs. A healthier relationship with our needs, and a shift in perception, allows us to become receptive vessels for their manifestation.
• Trauma and Unmet Needs: The impact of past experiences, particularly the trauma of ‘Galus’ (exile), can lead to unmet, diminished, or suppressed needs. This can result in experiencing life as a victim, believing needs won’t be met, or feeling one has no right to express them.
• Anxious vs. Avoidant Responses: Unmet needs can lead to two extreme responses: avoidance (shutting down, convincing oneself they have no needs) or anxiousness (demanding, controlling, aggressive behavior). Both are out of alignment, with avoidance blocking the vessel and anxiousness demonstrating a lack of trust in Hashem.
• The Path to Balance: Achieving balance and a healthy relationship with our needs opens the vessel to receive them in a beautiful, healthy, and peaceful way. This involves normalizing our human needs (physical and emotional) and understanding that they are not something to be chased, but rather fulfilled by Hashem.
• Belief in Worthiness: A crucial step is believing one is worthy of having their needs met, such as the need for love, stillness, or compassion. If we hold beliefs of unworthiness, these also act as blocks to receiving.
• Parshas Behaalosecha and the Menorah: The weekly Torah portion, Behaalosecha, which focuses on lighting the Menorah, is connected to the idea of being fully ‘lit up.’ The seven branches represent all parts of us, including struggles and pain. True fulfillment comes from accessing and illuminating the deepest parts of ourselves, even those that believe our needs don’t matter.
• The Six and Seven Divisions of the Torah: The Rebbe explains that dividing the Torah into seven books highlights the contrast between the initial positive narratives and the subsequent challenges and complaints. This division emphasizes that to be fully ‘lit up,’ one must address the negative aspects and perceived lacks within themselves.
• Trauma vs. Reality in the Desert: The Jews’ complaints in the desert are analyzed through the lens of their past trauma in Egypt. Their perception of being pushed and overworked by Hashem stemmed from their ingrained fear loops, rather than Hashem’s actual intention to heal and free them.
• The ‘Like Complainers’ Distinction: The Torah states the people were ‘like complainers,’ not actual complainers. This distinction highlights that at their core, Jews know they are unconditionally loved and have their needs met; their complaints are a manifestation of external beliefs and perceptions, not their true essence.
• Two Levels of Service (Avodah): The Rebbe describes two levels of service: the first in Galus, where one trains their body through external actions and inspiration to align with Hashem, and the second in Geulah (redemption), where one reveals their inherent connection to Hashem, realizing they have nothing to fix but only to uncover their true essence.
• Torah and Mitzvot as Divine Consciousness: Being ‘lit up’ with Torah means accessing divine consciousness and seeing the world from Hashem’s perspective. Being ‘lit up’ with Mitzvos means the body becomes a dwelling for Hashem, so connected that one naturally knows and flows with Hashem’s desires.
• The Rebbe’s Analogy: Dust vs. Cracks: A story illustrates that Jews are like letters in a Torah scroll. While one perspective suggests letters can crack and need fixing, the Friediker Rebbe clarifies that Jewish letters don’t crack; rather, dust can fall on them, obscuring their inherent completeness. The task is to remove the dust, revealing the truth that was always there.
• Practical Steps for Attunement: When experiencing strong reactions (shutdown or control), the first step is to slow down and get curious about the underlying unmet need. After validating the painful emotions that arise, ask what is truly desired. This process of identifying and honoring needs, even pre-verbal ones, is key to transformation.